Sunshine and Rain-Day 99

Happy Monday. I hope you had a wonderful and exciting weekend.

My weekend was very challenging. My starter went out again on my car. I had only recently changed the starter, but obviously the starter is a bad one, and I have to get someone to take off the "bad starter" so I can return it, prior to the expiration of the warranty.

But other than this, my weekend was great.

It is important to recognize that just as we have good days, we will have rainy days. These rainy days are when it appears everything that could go wrong do go wrong. But wait, there is light at the end of the tunnel.

We must continue moving forward regardless. It reminds me of love and hate. When you are married, all married life will not be peachy. The honeymoon will eventually come to an end, and reality of married life sets in. Meaning that you have to began to deal with differences you and your spouse have when it comes to opinions, attitudes, and the likes of just about anything in between.

Initially, in the early days of the marriage (the honeymoon), everything is new and wonderful. You are getting to really know one another, you touch often and are very affectionate toward one another. As time pass, you get use to one another, and you have to deal with the other person's attitude, bad days, and his or her problems as well as your own. It is not easy. In fact, it can be downright challenging to the point of giving up. But giving up is the easiest thing to do. "Working it out" is more complicated and make much more sense.

So the question becomes, how do we handle these rainy days?

We can have a positive or negative attitude. The choice is ours.

I choose, however, to be positive. I believe that with all the good days, there will eventually be some rainy days, and it is how I respond to the problem or "rain" that will eventually determine the outcome. I believe it is unnecessary to worry. Simply because if you worry, the problems will remain, and I may bring certain illnesses upon myself by worrying, and being anxious.

Worry- to torment oneself with or suffer from disturbing thoughts; fret.

Anxious-full of mental distress or uneasiness because of fear of danger or misfortune; greatly worried;

According to WebMD:

"Worrying is feeling uneasy or being overly concerned about a situation or problem. With excessive worrying, your mind and body go into overdrive as you constantly focus on “what might happen.”

In the midst of excessive worrying, you may suffer with high anxiety -- even panic -- during all your waking hours. Many chronic worriers tell of feeling a sense of impending doom or unrealistic fears that only increase their worries. Ultra-sensitive to their environment and to the criticism of others, excessive worriers may see anything -- and anyone -- as a potential threat.

Chronic worrying affects your daily life so much that it interferes with your appetite, lifestyle habits, relationships, sleep, and job performance. Many people who worry excessively are so anxiety-ridden that they seek relief in harmful lifestyle habits such as overeating, eating junk food, cigarette smoking, or using alcohol and drugs."(Web MD)

Use Worry Period For Problem Solving:

This is my personal technique. If there is something that you know you must deal with, don't worry about it. Take advantage, and use this as a way to become a problem solver. Think of ways to solve your problems, because worrying ill only make matters worse. And the problems will still be there after all of your worrying. So spend your time wisely and solve the problem.

I am a believer that any problem can be resolved. Now I am dealing with my own problems. I will resolve them, but know this...I am NOT worried.

Have a wonderful day, and don't worry BE HAPPY:)

L. for Love