Professional Dating Site Men-Day 89

Happy Saturday. I hope you have a wonderful day.

My birthday is fast approaching, and I think about my life quite frequently. I think about the partner that I want to share my life with. I think about loving because I have so much love to give, and no one to give it to right now. I think about my daughter, and how she is growing and aging stimultaneously. I am afraid of losing her. I want her to stay a child so she will never leave me.

Sometimes I think about growing old, and if I am alone. I am scared. I do not want to be alone. I want a strong mate. I need love and I want to share my life. I now understand that money is NOT the center of my universe.

I find it difficult to understand that many men on dating sites DO NOT really know what they want.

They may know that they want a "female" in their lives. But they have absolutely no clue as to what extent.

Extent-the space or degree to which a thing extends; length, area, volume, or scope.

I have spoken to many men from "dating sites". I can say without any doubt that most men have not though clearly about what they want. For example:

I have spoken to several men who say, they are interested in a "serious relation". But they never have the time to meet. When I suggest a place and time to meet, their first response is .."oh..I work ALL of the time", so I have to take a rain check.

OK. Let me understand this. YOu are on a dating service site. Your profile clearly states that you are interested in a "serious relation", but you have no time to invest in getting to know someone. Duh. Are you serious, even with yourself?

This is a complete and total contradiction. As I have explained to these men. If you do not MAKE the time to get to know someone, then how can a relationship happen? A relationship takes time. We must be willing to invest of ourselves if we really want it.

Also, please know what your goals are for the relationship. In other words, I want to eventually marry. This does not mean that I will marry every man that I hold a conversation with or even send a message to. This merely means that I know where I want "the" relationship to eventually go. This is when I find that special man. So you do not have to say "let see where it goes". In any relationship, you will see where it goes. It will be self evident where it is heading.

You will know if you like the lady, is attracted to her. But at least know what your goals are for the relationship that you seek.

This is my two(2) cents on some of my personal experiencs. I find too many "if" and not enough "knows". I am interested in the man who "knows". I like a many that knows what he wants because I knopw what I want. The only question is do we want eachother?

Have a great weekend.

L. for Love