Happy Tuesday. May this day be the greatest day ever. We can not change yesterday. But we can do something about today, and plan for tomorrow.
With that said, I must share with you that I find more men running to me when they see me. Why?
I consider myself an attactive lady. I take care of myself. Meaning that I am well groomed. I bathe daily and keep my appearance up. However, what I find strange is that when I get into a conversation with a man, he runs away. Why?
Could it be that I am not the "average" attractive lady with nice curves? I can speak in complete sentences. I do know more than the typical "hair and nails" thing. I can even have an intellectual conversation with you regarding most any political topic. I have more than just breast, butt and legs.
So why is it that most men, in my humble opinion, prefer nonthinking women? Why are you (men) intimidated by women that actually have and more importantly "use" their brain?
Just take the time and look at the women on television. Watch the "Kardashions". (I believe I spelled it right, but I do not watch the show) Moreover, these women parade around in the latest fashion, with hot bodies, and no real morals or values with regard to real life issues. They have become huge "celebrities" on visual appearance alone, no genuine talent . (Please note that I do not personally know nor have I ever met any of these women. I base my opinion solely on the content of the show-what little I have seen).
My conversations are NOT about the latest "name brand" handbags or designor outfits. I like to converse with you about issues that affect our daily lives. More in depth and profound topics.
Most all of the Black men that I have dated in the past, have been intellectually inferior, to me. This is the honest truth. However, I am not "ego" tripping. I am sharing with you my quest to find a man that is not afraid of a thinking woman. I am tired of pretending because I feel that I have to dumb-down to be accepted by a mate.
I know how to be humble. In fact, I prefer being humble to a real man. A man that knows and understands the importance of his leadership role. He should know how to treat a lady how to commit and how to be faithful. He should know that it takes two to make a relationship work.
Do not fear, a real woman is here. Try us.(intelligent women) I promise you will love us.:)
Have a great and "thinking" day,
L. for Love
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Hi L. I want to comment on this, even knowing that this topic is a minefield for a man. As a disclosure I must say that I personally prefer a smart woman. Of course I'd rather be with a beautiful and smart woman, than just plain smart. Why not have the best of both worlds?
ReplyDeleteBut going back to topic. I think there are as many reasons why a man feels threaten by a brainy woman, as there are men on the planet.
Issues such as emotional inmaturity, lack of self-confidence, lack of self-awareness, and fear of the unknown. In a way, there are all connected. The role playing in relationships have been established at a young age in the family nucleus. The submisive mother, can only produce submisive daughters. Also she produces men who learn to believe that is it their God-giving right to use women for the work they contribute, and their pleasure.
Now, according to most social anthropologists these roles are nothing new, they even have according to some, basis on evolutionary biology. We are all familiar with the stories about women looking on men, a good provider and protector for their off-springs, and men looking for the young, and healthy females to better spread his seed. Playing the devil's advocate here, I believe a man deep inside fears an intelligent woman, because we have other interests besides the family, and she would easily uncover our deceptions.
Now, as creatures that we all are, we have certain primitive coding within ourselves, only the most mature, self-aware, and educated individual can recognize those traits that served a purpose in societes a long time ago, but not anymore. A man who appreciates himself would love to have a partner his equal. But for a relationship to function in a day by day basis is good to know the needs of the other, and, as much as possible, make accomodations to reassure her or him about certain parts of the "roles" that society consider necesary, as silly as they may be. Unfortunaly part of those roles require women to play the weak, dumb, helpless victim, while the man has to come to the rescue, when he really doesn't have a clue.
But I promise you that there are men out there who love intelligent women, maybe you've been looking in the wrong place.