Discipline Is "Learned"-Day 59

Good morning and I hope you have a wonderful day. Go after you dreams and aspirations. Tell your children how much they mean to you. If you have a spouse, tell him or her as well. We all need to feel appreciated, loved and wanted.

I talk to my children daily and tell them how much I love them. I tell my son over the phone, and through our "text messages". He is away at school. I tell my daughter, as she is with me everyday. I love and admire her. I tell her daily that "whatever you do consistently, you turn into habit forming behavior".

This statement can not be disputed factually or logically.

How many of us were borned disciplined?

Discipline-training to act in accordance with rules; behavior in accord with rules of conduct; behavior and order maintained by training and control;to bring to a state of order and obedience by training and control.

Disorder-chaos, clutter; social commotion; mental confusion.

All human being must either learn to be disciplined or they will be in a state of "social commotion". There are no in betweens. Let use one of my favorite examples:

Let's say that I am over weight, and I want to lose weight. This means that I have been consuming too many calories and not using this "excess energy" (food), so the excess energy is stored on my body as fat. So now I must become disciplined in order to reduce my caloric intake, exercise regularly, to use up the calories that I consume. This takes discipline. I must control my behavior, and my ferocious appetite.

Why do you think so many American are over weight? We have let our guards down and we have become undisciplined in our eating habits. The extra weight on our bodies is the result of our behavior.

I tell this to my daughter because this past summer, she visited her dad. When she left me she was small, in shape and "ready for life's adventures". However, while she was visiting her dad, he allowed her to become undisciplined. She was allowed to sit in front of the TV daily for an inordinate number of hours. She ate "whatever". She did not read and follow her usual disciplined schedule. She was allowed to become undisciplined, and the results were astouding. She gained about 20lbs in the two months she was visiting him.

When she returned home, she did not have much energy. (she was lazy) She just wanted to sit around, eat and sleep. So it does not take a "rocket scientist" to figure out what she was doing while she was away.

I was furious. So I took control of my emotions, and I sat down and talked with my daughter. I told her that she had to get back to her daily regime of working on the mind, body and soul. She told me that she knew she let herself go. But I told her that we would work together.

And we have. My daughter has lost 10 poounds. We get up and run at the park most mornings. We monitor and maintain a very sensible diet. She understands AGAIN that food is to sustain us, and we should not get "caught up" in just the taste of it. I explained to her that she must learn to be disciplined again, and this takes daily practice.

My daughter and I are moving forward with taking control of our lives. Her father allowed her to become undisciplined because this is easy. It is much easier to allow children to do "whatever" eat "whatever" and say "whatever". Because this way, there is no responsibility, and less time spend monitoring their behavior. The parents allow children to have "uncontrollable freedom". This is dangerous.

But it takes much more focus and discipline to take control of your children and make sure that they are on the right track. This takes TIME, lots of time.

But the results are evident.

Which are you, disciplined or disorderly?

Have a great and properous day,


L. for Love