Good morning and may each of you have a wonderful and blessed day. I love you all. I do not want to grow old alone. I want to have a special man in my life. I have a special friend but I am trying to ascertain where this is actually going. Love and sharing is critical for me as I hope it is for you. Some people may feel comfortable being alone but I would much rather have my own husband to cuddle with, share my day, and to keep me warm in the wee hours of the morning.
However, I would much rather be alone than to be with any man that has absolutely no goals, no job and of course no intellectual stimulation. Been there. Done that. I am not interested in going backwards but moving straight ahead. I do not want a man that will pull me down but rather help me to reach the star. I do not want a man that requires me to motivate him constantly but instead we should motivate and encourage eachother. Moreover, today I must discuss the various mentalities that I come into contact with on a daily basis.
Are you familiar with the ant mentality and/or the crab mentality? Allow me to elaborate.
Ant mentality-Ants work hard. They work together for the good of the collective group. They are efficient workers that make sure that the colony is protected. Every ant must work and have their own specified job. They make sure their support system is in place.
Crab mentality- (sometimes also described as "crab in a bucket syndrome") describes a way of thinking best described by the phrase "if I can't have it, neither can you." The metaphor refers to a pot of crabs. Singly, the crabs could easily escape from the pot, but instead, they grab at each other in a useless "king of the hill" competition which prevents any from escaping and ensures their collective demise. The analogy in human behavior is that of a group that will attempt "pull down" (negate or diminish the importance of) any member who achieves success beyond the others, out of jealousy or competitive feelings. (Wiki definition)
Most African Americans here in South Florida that I have come into contact with have the latter, the crab mentality. They do not want to see anyone move ahead. In fact, they will go out of their way to prevent success of others at all cost. I have personal experience with both of these mentalities. But mostly the latter when I have dealt with A.A. I have much more success when I deal with Caucasians and Hispanics. This is a sad but true statement.
Just go to Liberty City in Miami. Liberty City is located in the area of 62nd and NW 7th Avenue. Most businesses are controlled and operated by other ethnicities. My first question is why? Black neighborhoods are the only areas you can visit and not see majority black businesses. Go to Hialeah, and see if Blacks are running stores in that area. NOT. Go to Aventura and see who dominates and control the economics in this area.
This is my question, and I challenge anyone to intellegently and factually answer this question. Why don't blacks control the economics in their neighborhood?
A well known bookstore, in this area, recently shut its dooors. It was forced to close because of lack of customers. This bookstore sold all kinds of black history and other books and much more. They offered edible material and a healthy cuisine. But they could not generate enough income to keep their doors open. Why? I will give you the clear and concise answer. It may not be nice and pretty or even sound good but it is factual and true and it can not be logically or factually disputed. The people in this area did not patronize this bookstore. They have the crab mentality. They would much rather see others succeed as oppose to their own. These people would much rather patronize businesses that take their money out of their neighborhood. Go and look for yourself at the area. It is poverty stricken. Most of the homes are government funded and dilapidated from neglect. Most schools in the area are given F(s) by the state of Florida. Why?
If you are in another state, just pull up Liberty City, a section in the city of Miami. Google should give you the demographics of the area.
It is time for us to openly discuss these serious ills rather than close our eyes and pretend like the problems don't exist. Acknowledgment is the only way that we will come up with solutions. A problem must first be acknowledged before it can be solved. Where is Jessie Jackson or even Al Sharpton? I pose these questions to them. Why do most Black people have the crab mentality? What happened to the ant mentality we had in the days of slavery and segregation?
Which mentality do YOU have?
Have a great day.
L. for Love
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Alright then, allow me to give this one a whirl. And before I get started, I'm not going to attack you in any way, that just takes time and I have other things to do. Ok then, your first question was Why don't black people control their neighborhood's economics? Well, there are a plethora of reasons. Maybe its a poor district and none of the residents could get a loan, maybe there is that last trace of racism in the local banks, hell, maybe nobody wanted the hassle, or a lot of the store could be family owned. This one is a hard question to answer without more info. Number 2 : Why did that book store close (if I get them out of order or miss one, I apologize) Well, I think a fairly obvious reason is that, once again, you've described the area as somewhat in the impoverished area. Reading is truly a luxury that some just can't afford. Also, competetion with the internet could've hit the buisness hard. And as for the healthy cuisine, two important factors here. A: Health food is yuck, an unitelligent reason, yes, but I like it. B: It's costly. Why go get the special health food there for $30 a plate when McDonalds will give you a bucket for a dollar? And that leads us to three: Why are the Florida schools failing? Well, reason one, because the Maine schools rule!... sorry, unintelligent again. Real reason one, impoverished areas are shown to give less importance to education. The less importance given, the less people care or even show up to or about school. This can result in the F's. Why do blacks have the crab mentality (nice by the way, haven't heard that analogy used in a while, bravo)... Ok, you win this one, didn't know they did. And the mentality during slavery thing? That's a really stupid question. I'm disappointed in you for this one. It's hard to try and bring everyone down when you and your race are forced to labor. One has to be an ant if there is a man on a horse whipping the piss out you if you slow down. But hey, the others were really fascinating and if you wish to discuss them in more detail, I look forward to the debate, Billdude111@hotmail.com I have messenger or email, whichever. Respon ASAP please
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