Where did I end yesterday must be asked before I can inquire as to where I should begin today. Yesterday, I elaborated on the formal education, I received in Detroit, Michigan.
Moreover, today I am in the library, asking myself, where do I go from there? I do know that my destination is clear and concise, but the direction sometime gets foggy. But here goes...
I was a single black female for most of my adult life. I had boyfriends, of course. Most of the males I dated were black. They were not very educated nor articulated. I believe many were intimidated by a woman with some smarts. I am specifically speaking of a woman that knows more about politics and other real life matters than she knows about the designor name on the bag she carries. In fact, I remember all too well, an incident I had after meeting a member of the Detroit Lion's football team, many years ago.
This team member had given me his telephone number, so we could plan to meet up. I eventually called him and invited him to come over to my place, and he gladly accepted.
At the time, I was living in downtown Detroit, and had my own apartment. Moreover, when he arrived to my apartment, he instantaneously alluded to the number of books I had. He quickly charged that I was trying to "get in his head". I was shocked by this erroneous accusation, as I had no clue what he meant. I asked him to elaborate. He did not know the definition of "elaborate", so I explained it to him. He went to explicate that I had "Psychology books" and "I donno what you trying to do, you must be trying to use psychology on me," he alleged. Thereafter, he abruptly left my place and I never saw or heard from him again. To this day, my determination of that meeting with the football player has been that he was evidently intimidated that I am a "thinking" woman and he was more interested in a "nonthinking" woman.
What I mean by a nonthinking woman is one who primarily focuses on clothes, hair, and/or nails. The things that have little and/or no significance. A woman with very little substance but her exterior appearance. I ask you nonthinking women....Can you and more importantly, your children speak in complete sentences? Do you really understand that your children are more important than your weave, nails and any other superficial things we do and wear to be beautiful ?
I found the incident, involving the football player, to be a dual learning experience for me. On the one hand, he had acknowledged that I was unlike the women he had dated, and on the other, it revealed that many black uneducated males, are intimated by "thinking women". Look around, and you will find many professional black females, like myself, that are single.
The more poignant question is WHY?
When you ascertain certain facts such as, black males are more likely to go to prison than to college or that more black males choose to know more about sports than to know about the politics in their community and beyond. Even though, politicians make decisions which affects them and their families. Sports, need I remind them, is there for entertainment purposes ONLY. You will begin to see a picture. The picture is not a nice picture. In fact, it is down right frightening. Most black males in America have lost their way, and most of the present generation of black males are classless illiterates. As a result, black people are digressing in America, not progressing.
This is a sad but true commentary.
Have a great day.
L. for Love
I have to say I do agree with your view on many (not all of course) black men. I work at an elementary school, and so many of the (black) fathers are absent in their children's lives. And I notice all the mothers have their nails done, even when it's obvious their children are lacking attention and/or necessities. You have a good perspective, I hope people are reading you.
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